Letting Go of Control

Recently I've been observing my desire to control a lot of things in my life. My growth edge has been leaning into letting go of control. There are a couple of things that I've been desperately wanting to control.

I realize I can't control a lot of things... as they're just simply out of my control. It's been giving me much more space. It's not easy by any means. But I keep waking up each day and practicing letting go of trying to influence the uncontrollable; which in turn eases the anxiety. I've been shifting my focus to areas where my actions directly impact my outcome (e.g., my responses, attitudes, and self-care). This reduces stress and frees up mental energy for me.

I've gotten back to my morning meditation and mindfulness practice, which always supports me. I've struggled with this over the years because I've wanted to do it perfectly. I've wanted the right meditation with the right focus. What I've come to learn from The Mind Illuminated is that "the only bad meditation is the one I don't do!"

I recently found this quote by Adyashanti: "Real meditation is not about mastering a technique; it's about letting go of control." And so, I present a few tools I've been using, which might support you as well:

Setting Boundaries For Myself

When I notice myself trying to control the situation, I pause and consciously decide to release the thought. I acknowledge that some outcomes are beyond my reach. This simple boundary helps me to develop a habit of trust and acceptance.

Reframing My Beliefs About Control

I realize that “control” is sometimes an illusion. Events unfold with or without my influence. Embracing this belief brings me a sense of relief and reinforces that peace comes from adapting rather than controlling.

Practicing Mindfulness

This has really helped me to stay present and release the need to anticipate every outcome. I use techniques like meditation or breathing exercises to help center me in the moment which makes it easier to let go of all the thoughts of "what if."

I hope this offers some support! For more practices, please don't hesitate to reach out. 

Sending love & light to all.