Standing on the Earth in Times of Grief
I'm writing today with a heavy heart as I mourn the recent passing of my Great Auntie Gail. Her loss has left a deep void in our lives, and I'm navigating the waves of grief with my family by my side.
Grief isn't a straightforward journey; it's more like a turbulent sea, sometimes calm, sometimes stormy. It fills every moment, making even the simplest joys bittersweet.
As if the pain of Aunt Gail's passing weren't enough, this month also marked the 35th anniversary of my father's death. The timing of these two events has magnified the ache in my heart, serving as a reminder of the fragility of life and the enduring nature of grief.
As I frequently do in times of pain and uncertainty, I've been turning to spiritual practices for comfort. I know that mindfulness can bring us closer to both sorrow and joy so that we're able to honor life's big moments with balance and a sense of peace. I'll share one exercise that has helped me in the last week with you below.
To all who are grappling with loss and grief, I extend my heartfelt empathy. May we find solace in the memories we hold dear and the love that surrounds us, and may we emerge from the darkness with newfound strength and resilience. In the words of Rumi, "The wound is the place where the light enters you."
Standing On The Earth
Adapted from Kimberly Brown's Navigating Grief & Loss. Try this exercise anytime you feel swept away by shock or confusion or when you feel unsteady and ungrounded.
Stand up straight, or if you need to remain seated, do so comfortably.
Focus your attention on your feet. Feel them touching the ground, notice the sensations.
Stretch your arms above your head, gently pressing down through your feet as you do so. Feel the connection between your body and the earth.
Let your arms relax by your sides. Take a few deep breaths, inhaling deeply and exhaling fully.
Repeat as needed.
Afterward, take a moment to appreciate yourself for taking this time for self-care. If possible, rest or engage in activities that bring you comfort and nourishment.